Others think differently. They first analyse themselves. Instead of blaming others, they hold themselves responsible. According to them, everything is because of their pa:pakarma. They are of the madhyama, i.e. medium category.
Sometimes we are hurt by others, through their actions we dislike. It creates a conflict in the atmosphere. Being a social creature, we have to face such situations in all social interactions. Our actions may not be liked by others in reverse we do not relish their actions and words.
“my father’s love, greatness (mahima:) of Bharatha, valour (paurusha) of A:njane:ya, friendship (sakhyam) of Sugri:va, devotion of Lakshmana, integrity of Si:ta:de:vi, my valour (bhujabalam), my behaviour towards the enemies – all these have been understood by me only because of your mercy mother!”
People like Ra:ma, are utthamas. It gives relief when we think that whatever happens is for our benefit. A king had a minister. He would announce always that “everything is for good”. Once by mistake king’s finger had a cut. The minister, as usual, uttered the same words making the king angry. The king put him in prison. Even then the minister repeated the
The next day the king went on a hunting expedition and was captured by the forest tribals who took him to offer to their deity. The head of the tribals saw the king and noticed that his little finger had a cut. Since every offering was expected to be completely healthy before the sacrifice, the head released the king as he was unfit. So, the king escaped and returned to his kingdom.
The king remembered the wise counsel of his minister when his little finger had a cut. He realized that it was that cut which saved him from death. As per his orders, the minister was released and brought back to court. Once the minister had arrived, the king asked him, “Minister! When my finger had a cut you said everything is for good. Likewise I had a
great escape. But why did you utter the same words when you were sentenced?” The minister replied, ”Your highness! If I were not sentenced, I would have accompanied you on the hunt. Since I was perfectly healthy, I would have lost my life in the sacrifice. You have favoured me by putting me in jail.”
So, no matter what the circumstance, to overcome the situation, it is better to react positively. This attitude will act as a lubricant to reduce the friction.
– By T.P. Raghavachari, translated by Dr. T. Amukta, Chennai